Letting Go of the Past...

This is dedicated to my dear friends and family that has ever lost someone to death, divorce, break up, or loss of a loved one for unknown reason...It is not easy. However, letting go of your past requires ALOT of effort and energy. We have it in us. We just have to find it. I know there are times one may find they can't get through it, but you will see in time you are stronger than you ever were before because YOU conquered this troubled time. Find courage and strength, pray, laugh, cry, talk, love...find your OWN peace. Happy days are ahead!


It's not easy, but there are practical ways to let go of your past and move on. Before you DRIVE FAST into letting go and saying good-bye to your past, you may need to face your memories and experiences. Sounds fun? I know I have not had some experiences where I have did right, however, I have learned that if I accept my mistakes and responsibilities for your actions, its easier to move on.

My ways of "letting go" may not work for you but, what does a little blog of how I have dealt with it hurt? NONE!

When a loss occurs, the first thing SOME people say is "it will be okay". No, it will NOT be okay! That is what we are thinking at that time. Of course, when we lose something we love, nothing at that time can make it better. However, I share with you what I have done and trust me, alot of this is easier said then done. Here we go!

1.Write, talk, draw, paint, or otherwise tap into your thoughts and memories. Letting go of your past means honoring your memories. Laugh about the good times, even the bad. Those bad times are the times we grew stronger.

2.Let go of the emotions and feelings of painful memories by letting them wash over you – you'll feel horrible during, but relieved and peaceful afterwards. Let go of your past by reliving it.

3.TALK-seek closure with the person you let go of, if possible. Letting go of your past can mean going back and talking about it.

4.Share your real feelings; confess if it's "right". Letting go of your past means expressing your emotions. If you have to deal with your mistakes, then own up to your shame or guilt. Let go of your ego!

5.Apologize and ask forgiveness if you need to. Letting go of your past means being vulnerable. (Trust me, we have all been there!)

6.Get help with uncontrollable urges to be "stupid". I have always said you can have a few drinks to forget about it, or try and run, but the problem is still there the next day.

I've learned letting go of the past is accepting that there's nothing you can do to change it. You did the best you could. As long as YOU can walk away saying "you did everything you could", you will move forward. When you're facing your failures, know that you were as good, loving, and effective as you could have been. If you were to go back, you couldn't do anything differently because that's who you were and that's what you knew then. It's done. Let go of your past.

Lastly, forgive yourself for your mistakes. Don't lay in bed at night and wonder why. It's done. It's the past. Now, find the energy and move forward. Afterall, you are this amazing person who has the world to offer. You should be excited! The past is a memory. Memories will NEVER be forgotten!